There is famous quote by Buddha that says, “The mind is everything. What we think, we become.” As it relates to fitness, how you see yourself, whether weak, fat, tired, or physically fit, is what reality becomes. Therefore, you need to make sure that your self perception is really the one you want to come true!
The importance of examining our own identity is something that I learned about from my mentor, Steve Linder. What we say with emotion becomes our reality. This is why it is so important to stop looking at yourself and cutting your body down.
That how we define ourselves determines the choices we take makes it even that much more important that we have a good self identity. If we think of ourselves as weak, we will avoid lifting weights. If we see ourselves as tired, we won’t push ourselves to get more out of a workout. One of the problems here is that we end up limiting ourselves, which keeps us from actually achieving the results that we want.
Let me give you a couple examples of clients I have worked with and how their thoughts on their identity impacted their ability to reach goals. I have a female client that came to me after having back surgery and couldn’t find a way to get fit. She would get hurt or simply wouldn’t know what to do. Soon she became overwhelmed and gave up, which led to a significant weight gain, as well as a loss of confidence in what she would be able to do.
Together we took the time to create a custom plan for her that included setting smart goals. These goals included daily, weekly, and monthly milestones. It also included exercise, nutrition, and supplements. She progressed over the course of a year, and she lost 50 pounds! Over the next year, she began running half marathons and even triathlons. She is now living her true self – the one she wanted to be, which is an athlete.
Another client of mine, a young business women, would get close to her goals, and then when she had to travel, would end up gaining it all back and getting off track. Despite her beset efforts, she defined her identity as being someone that can’t loss weight while traveling, and therefore took a zero action approach.
By realizing who you are currently isn’t who you really are, is a success. Because like the marathon boomer, she ended up becoming her true self. So if a 50-plus back surgery client can change how she defines herself and take daily action and become her best self, why not you?
By achieving your true self, you begin to live the life you were meant. You become a better grandparent, a better traveler, or what ever you see you are. Don’t you deserve to be your best? Now you have to put the work in and commit to the action like the marathon boomer, because there is no quick fix.
So here is your assignment – If you could be your very best you in sustained health and vitality, who would you be? What would you do? Then how would your life be better?
Now that you have defined yourself, take that action and re-enforce yourself with positive feelings.
You can make it in those lines.